Rates & other FAQs

Every other therapist has a list of specialties. What are mine?

(a shameless attempt to get the SEO to send me to the right clients….if you made it this far, that might be you!

I work mostly with the following kinds of people:

  • Lesbian, gay, bisexual & pansexual, trans, nonbinary and queer adults (I do see straight clients, but they are by far the minority in my practice).

  • Adult Third Culture Kids — I am a TCK and grew up in Kazakhstan, Kenya, Uganda, Thailand, China and India.

  • Immigrants, expats, asylum seekers and refugees. My initial therapy training and experience was with refugees and asylum seekers. I feel comfortable working with interpreters and especially love working with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people from refugee, immigrant and asylum backgrounds! (Sometimes that’s a hard intersection to find someone affirming. Especially if this is you, don’t let finances be a barrier to reaching out.)

  • Clients in ethically non-monogamous or polyamorous relationship structures, including solo polyamory and relationship anarchy. I’ve lived, loved and worked with ENM and polyam communities for 13 years.

  • Anxious over-achievers and burned-out alumni of Gifted and Talented programs with ADHD, late-diagnosed on the Autism Spectrum and anxiety.

  • Progressive Jewish clients wrestling with legacies of Zionism, intergenerational trauma and current events.

  • Queer people who have left restrictive Christian environments (i.e.: ex-Mormons, folks who grew up Fundamentalist Evangelical, former Pentacostals, etc) and are figuring out healthy-for-them sexuality, relationships and boundary setting.

  • Medical professionals, nurses, doctors, physician’s assistants & public health pros.

I work primarily on managing anxiety, developing systems to reduce chaos and helping clients learn to manage their emotions using EMDR, Narrative Exposure Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, and Internal Family Systems. I like to focus on concrete skills, strategies and tools that you can use outside of our weekly therapy session and through your life. I don’t necessarily do short-term therapy, but I am also motivated to do therapy that creates real positive changes in your life.

I’ve never been to therapy, what can I expect?

I’m so glad you’re interested in trying to improve your mental health and work on some of the patterns that aren’t working for you anymore, and are considering me as your therapist!

I’ll help you:

  • Identify your feelings

  • Improve your attachments to those close to you

  • Create new stories about your lives and your strengths

  • Understand the cultural and historical context of your family and how you learned your patterns of interacting

  • Learn how to make those patterns work better for you, for those in your life now, and for the next generations.

  • Heal trauma and develop better habits.

Beginning:

I like to meet with clients for a 20 minute free consultation to check fit, schedule one here! If it’s a good fit for both of us, we’ll have an intake: this is where I ask you about your history, the problems you’re bringing and your goals: this tells me what you’d like to focus on in therapy! If you’re nervous, let me know, I want to know how I can make you feel comfortable.

Middle:

A session with me usually involves me checking in on what’s important for you to talk about in the session: this might be checking in on a topic or practice from last week, some event that needs discussion from the previous week or something else that’s been on your mind. We’ll discuss it, I’ll offer feedback and connections (if I notice any), and weave in the methods that we’ve discovered work best for you to approach an issue, like parts work (IFS), mindfulness, boundary setting or EMDR. I don’t generally assign homework, but I might encourage you to observe and journal about something we discuss in session, implement a plan to work on an issue we’ve talked about, or read a book/listen to a podcast/watch a YouTube video about a topic related to what we’re working on in therapy: I could babybird those things to you, but I find that you’ll get more specific and nuanced information from those sources than I can provide for you in our 53 minute session. If there’s anything I can do to make you more comfortable or meet your needs differently, please let me know: feedback is a really important part of the therapeutic relationship.

End:

All things end, even therapy. I don’t believe you have to be in therapy for the rest of your life, or even that I am the perfect therapist for everyone. You can end our therapeutic relationship at any time for any reason. I like to hear from you, either via email or in person if that’s the case though, so that I can help you address any issues and so that I know what’s going on. If I notice that we’ve hit a point where we’re vibing, but not really getting into anything “real”, you seem to be meeting your goals and managing stressors with aplomb, or you’ve moved on to a topic that is outside my area of expertise, then either you or I can initiate a conversation about what ending the relationship looks like, what feelings are coming up and how I can help you in that transition.

I can be reached directly via email at arielle@wanderingbelongingtherapy.com, or you can schedule an appointment here!